An old friend..
Today i met up with an old friend. An old friend whom i knew since my sec sch days. An old friend whom i was once very close to during our earlier days in nus. An old friend whom i gradually saw less of eversince she got attached. And an old friend who recently got married.
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I'm not going to hide the fact that I do have my doubts about my friendship with her. I believe in the saying that people change, be it for the better or worse. However, as an adult, I shall not let differing life principles affect our years of friendship.
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We managed to catch up with our lives just now. Started off with me going over to her house to look through her wedding album followed by a shopping session at town. Talked during our train ride to town, talked over lunch and while sipping away the latte at CB. Much thoughts and ideas were exchanged indeed.
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If there's one word to describe this friend of mine, it would be materialistic. Of course, this word is very subjective. I believe this is a constructive critism, rather than a condemnation. Seriously, when i look at her and listen to all her future plannings, I asked myself whether she'll ever learn to be contented with her life.
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Right now, things seem to fall perfectly into place for her. At 21, she already has a well-to-do husband who can very much support her financially. However, it was worrying when most of the things she talked about just now had to do with money. I cant possibly write all the things she mentioned here, so im just going to pick out a few.
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She mentioned that even with a combined income of five thousand dollars with her husband, she's not sure if that is suffient enough to support her lifestyle and family. In my heart, i was like "what the hell? 5K per mth is not enough to live by?" She brought that up because i mention that i planned to get a car before getting married. Then she went on to say that its not cheap bla3. Of course i know that. But to me, that's like my personal goal in life. She said that i should just concentrate on saving up for marriage. So, i defended my stand by saying that i have other priorities in life at the moment other than marriage. Unlike her, im not getting married anytime soon nor would my parents be keen in marrying me off at this age. And the ultimate reason is of course, my bf is definitely not financially prepared for that long term commitment yet. Therefore, she cant expect everybody to adopt her way of thinking.
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And then she asked me, "are u and nasz really serious?" Her question made me wonder where it was going to lead to. But i prefer to look at it positively rather than " ohh she's gonna make me think twice about settling down with nasz bcos of his lower edn level and salary as compared to mine when i start working". I'm glad i handled that question pretty well. I realised that when I'm with her, I cannot show her that I'm uncertain about my thoughts and future planning. Everything's got to be firm. For once, i was decisive and clear of what I want. Perhaps, having her around isnt a bad thing afterall :-)
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In conclusion, I cherish the friendships I developed throughout my life. If not, I wouldnt have bothered meeting up with her after all 'those' things that happened in the course of our friendship. As a friend, I respect her life principles, though i don't agree with her saying that "marriage isn't all abt love". She has hers, and I have mine. So, let it stay as that.
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On my way back home, i remembered dearie saying smth like "
biar hidup sederhana b..asalkan kita bahagia. Tak guna berlagak mcm org kaya kalau hidup tak sempurna."
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As for me, eventhough i love to splurge, i see that as a way to pamper myself once in a while. I worked hard and saved up, thus im entitled to some
princess treatment..like just now. I finally bought my mac make-up set and i'm contented :-)
~flew by @ 11:52 PM
